by Ken Royal
A parent e-mailed me to say that I was always offering tips to teacher, but I hadn't offered any to parents. Well, here's a few things parents can do early in the school year to help make the journey a bit easier, as well as a bit more organize. I'm sure there's more, so I may add to the list.
1. Homework? Is there a policy, what can be expected? Hopefully, this is uniform for all teachers, but it might not be. Know what individual teachers expect.
2. Snacks and Recess? Is there a time for a nutritious snack each day? And will there be a recess time?
3. Contact numbers and e-mail? How can parents contact the teacher? There will be a time when you need to do it, so find out early.
4. How can you request a parent/teacher meeting? It’s always a good plan to meet early with a teacher, beyond a meet the teacher day. There’s nothing like talking across the table. Many teachers will have a sign-up sheet for this at open house, or meet the teacher day/night.
5. Information? Web site? Friday folder? How does the teacher get information to you in a timely way? There’s nothing wrong with waiting for the Friday folder, but if there’s more, you need to know how to access it. Web sites are great, because you can get there often.
6. Subject area goals? Hopefully, this is part of an early open house, or a meet the teacher night. If subject goals aren’t mentioned, with a few examples, ask the question. The teacher may have missed it, and will thank you for the reminder. Don’t put anyone on the spot. If there isn’t time, suggest sending a short outline home, or posting it to the site. It’s nice to know what to expect, so you can bone up on your math, and practice your vocabulary. It’s also good conversation when your son or daughter learns the word bored, and begins to use it. Sharing something cool that’s going to be learned, down the road, may save the day. Looking forward to something most always makes things better.
7. Home Help? What can a parent do to help at home? Find out all you can do at home to help with practicing and reinforcing what’s happening in school. Ask if weekly, or unit tips go home. It’s possible that you may give the teacher an idea.
8. School tools? Books to computers, find out what’s needed, and what your child needs to use. You may not be a computer pro, but it’s never too late to learn. Be open to new learning tools, and check them out yourself.
9. School, and Class rules? You want to know the rules, and procedures from illness to homework excuses. Usually there’s a school guide for this. There might even be an Acceptable Use Policy (AUP) for technology use.
10. Class helpers, room parents, volunteers? If there’s a sign up sheet, get your name on what you can comfortably do. It’s best to check with your son or daughter on this, too. He or she may be comfortable with you on a field trip, but not as a math tutor.
11. Daily schedule? Get the schedule. Find out if it’s online. Hang the paper one on the fridge, and make sure the right one is posted in your son or daughter’s notebook. It’s OK to help with reminders, not forgetting sneakers, and pep talks at home.
12. Handouts? Make sure you collect everything, from forms to permission slips. Keep the information for referral throughout the year.
13. Mix and mingle at any parent gathering, as much as you can, to introduce yourself to other parents. Good for the “guess whom I met” conversation at home, but beyond that it’s good to know for confirming classroom requests and verifying information. And if this is your first or only child, you may also learn a few tips from parents, who have been there before.
14. Online grading? Parent portal? Does the school or district share student progress online? An example would be something like PowerTeacher by Pearson http://www.pearsonschoolsystems.com/products/powerteacher/, which is quite an elaborate extension of the classroom and school communication.
15. If your son or daughter has more than one teacher, make the rounds, and know them, at least by name, and what they do. Don’t’ forget the specials staff—music, art, P.E, because it may helpful later. It’s also nice to know what’s happening in these classes, too.
16. Make time for a daily talk, and don’t ask questions that can be
answered with a simple yes or no. Learn how to talk, use what you know
about the class, and assignments to make the talk interesting. Do it
without the TV on, and without any other distractions. You might want
to take notes, or explain something, so paper and pencil is a good
idea. It also make it easy for you to say “Show me.”
17. Realize that no list can completely prepare you for all the parenting skills and help you’ll need in a school year, let alone after each school day. Have plenty of patience, you're certain to lose some, but it's normal. Don't be a helicopter parent, but be there!